I like LB's answer (the 2nd response) except for #3. You should call everyone and be polite & just let them know you need a headcount & they can not add guests.
Even if they were rude & didn't RSVP & added extra guests, they will be attending your wedding to support you & probably getting you a gift. So if you want things to go smoothly on your wedding day, just take a breath and try to be breezy (even though I know it can be very annoying!!! People just don't get that you NEED to know how many people are coming...but understand that perhaps they have not been to this type of seated wedding where headcount is important).
As for #3 - Just tell your fiance's mom that it is too late to add anyone else. Be honest but firm. Explain that there is limited room & you need to have an exact headcount. Explain [calmly] that if she was serious about inviting those people, she should have given you the addresses when you requested them & if there was a problem, she should have let you know long before now. If you "lose" the invites like LB suggests, she might CALL them and invite them, & you will have no space for them.
I know that all of this stuff is a nightmare, but try to be above it all and polite and rational to everyone. It will pay off in the end.
Good luck! I hope it all works out for you.  |