i have horrible dreams of my former self...

[porque lloras basil?]

my past seems to haunt me in my sleep.. how do i overcome this? it's been years now... and i'm happily married to a WONDERFUL man.... however, i can't get past the shame and guilt from my past..... though i have asked God for forgiveness, i can't seem to forgive myself... and i torment myself in my sleep.... how do i forgive myself and move past this all?um. i just said, "i can't seem to forgive myself". so no. i haven't forgiven myself.

[mezzy365]

You have asked 'god' for forgiveness, but have you really forgiven yourself?

[Charrie' B]

Get on your knees and Thank GOD for his forgiveness and finally realize that you are hurting yourself with this unforgiving spirit towards your self. It is the work of satan and it is his job to make it as hard as he can to keep us from actually knowing and accepting GODS greatest gift. Salvation. I have felt the very same way as you. For years I kept beating myself up for the many sins I've committed over the years, and I have committed some doozies!! GOD understands this and has given us the ultimate example of his forgiveness. HIS son JESUS CHRIST!. Don't let satan keep attacking you. Take what the LORD has given you and run with it. You will come to the conclusion you desire, the more you ask the SPIRIT for help in doing this. May GOD bless you and your family.

[Nope egg sure]

You want your past in your present. You are too bored with your 'WONDERFUL' man. I read behind the lines.I see you thumbs downed me with this Yahoo! account and your alternate account. You cannot deny the truth. Look inside yourself further.

[refugiotrans]

There is a very good article here that talks about how and why you must forgive yourself and learn from your mistakes in order to live in the present and the future. For one thing, not to do so will harm your wonderful husband. At least do it for him.http://www.prevention.com/article/0,...2465-1,00.html

[osiris_lives_forever]

The best thing you can do is take the lessons you have learned and apply them to your life. This is not as much about forgiveness as moving forward from a bad place. What is done is done. Besides, if you hadn't gone through all those things, you never would have married your husband. If you love your life now, you have to realize that your past led up to this point, and without it, your life would be completely different.

[Big C]

Sometimes I have to take sleeping pills, or even wrap my hands in a wet towel to escape some of the horrors in my memories. However... I know that my regret, that same thing that makes those dreams of yours horrible to you... they are what prove that we are now Good People.You have been Blessed by this Wonderful Man you speak of. Rejoice! You've grown, and become a better person.Let your Pride be your Guide. Strive to be the best person you can be today and continue to move forward.Good Luck!

[chrissylm37]

Forget about the past, it's over and done with, that's why it's called the past. You've obviously moved on to better things. Your married to a wonderful man. We all have things in our past that we would change if we could but we can't so we have to deal with it. You have to realize that you were young and made stupid decisions we've all done stupid things but that was the past and your not that person anymore. Think more about the present and your wonderful husband and leave the past where it belongs. You've come along ways from then and you should be more proud about how you turned out, "Happily married" to a man that loves you for you.

[InLikeFlynn]

This is not my usual territory but I am touched by your cry for help. All of these answers are great and I'm sure you would find solace if you practiced all these suggestions from your felow Yahooers. But let me tell you what i did to solve my problem when stuff like this was not enough. I found a group of people who had the same problem as myself and joined them. We met and discussed our problems, afterwards we prayed. In a few months I got my self esteem back and my confidence came back. I felt better and better. But I didnt let my guard down, I kept going back to the group for like psychological and spiritual therapy. It's been 16 yrs since I've been tortured with that problem. Try it, you'll like it. I garuntee it.............Flynn